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Together…

Ugh… thinking about this world is making me feel guilty. At this stage of life, my husband and children and I are together a lot… but I realize that many of these times we are not REALLY together. We may be in the same room, but zoned into different things. Or maybe one or two people are interacting while the rest are doing something individually. Light bulb moment— start making the together times really count!

This past week I learned of the passing of a pure-hearted and kind man whom I did missionary service with almost 20 years ago. I don’t think anyone that ever met him did not instantly LOVE him. At middle age he leaves a wife and four young children (quadruplets!) for a time. My heart breaks when I think about how this family must yearn with all their being just to be together with their husband/father one more time. Yet, the harsh realities inherent to mortal life dictate that they must wait an earthly lifetime before they are reunited.

I will sit down to dinner with each of my family members tonight. I must treasure this time. My oldest is 14, and I know that in just a few short years she will be in spreading her wings in college. I won’t have the chance to knock on her bedroom door in the evening and find out how she is doing. And my 12 year old son will likely go on to do missionary service (maybe even a half a world away) in just 6 years. I won’t be able to invite him to ride with me to the store and look into his mind and heart as we travel. Sigh…

I am grateful for the chance to reflect on the word “together.” It stings a bit to realize how much I am taking for granted the together time my family is blessed with right now. But I’m glad for the reminder to more intentionally connect and share while I have my babies under the same roof.

Five Minute Friday

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October 25, 2013 - 11:21 am

Karen Sandford - Oh I know this so well! Mine are 19, 16 and 12. Still together, but in a different way. Thanks for sharing.
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October 25, 2013 - 12:01 pm

Mary Hill - I am sorry you lost someone so close to you. I am glad he blessed your life the way that he did. Just stopping from Five Minute Friday. Hope the rest of your weekend is blessed.
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you are enough, day 22

I have something extremely important to share with you…

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You are.
It’s true.
Believe it.

This creative art work comes from Brave Girls Club.

Invitation: Check out this incredible community of women who are loving and encouraging each other and themselves.

Continue to Day 23, Forgive Yourself.

For the introduction and list of daily topics for my project, 31 Days of Positive Thinking, go here.

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October 31, 2013 - 3:01 pm

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I am…, day 21

As a follow up to the previous introduction to self-affirmations, I would like to share a few of my daily affirmations.

I look forward to each new day.
I am excited to discover the inspiration and blessings Heavenly Father has in store for me.
I am grateful for a healthy body that can exercise and complete the work required of me this day.
I show love and appreciation for my body by choosing nutritious foods and eating moderately.
I am blessed with family and friends who love and support me. I am happy to be kind and encouraging to others.

I’m telling you, starting my day with positive thoughts really makes a difference. I love recognizing my blessings and potential before I start my day.

And here is the girl who can really show us how it’s done. Meet Jessica and I promise you will be inspired.

Invitation: Share one of your affirmations in the comments.

Continue to Day 22, You Are Enough.

For the introduction and list of daily topics for my project, 31 Days of Positive Thinking, go here.

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October 23, 2013 - 4:47 pm

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October 24, 2013 - 6:56 am

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Self-Affirmations, Day 20

In Being Kind to Yourself I mentioned the practice of affirmations. A self-affirmation is a statement that one reviews with the hope that focusing on this positive thought will increase the self’s capacity to internalize and realize what is being said. Affirmations are often used to replace negative thoughts. For instance, if one finds herself berating her intellectual ability because of a mistake she has made, she can turn to a previously constructed affirmation statements such as “Mistakes do not define me. I am a smart person because I learn from my mistakes.”

For the sceptics out there… I totally understand your hesitation to believe that self-affirmations work. If you remember the Stuart Smalley skits on Saturday Night Live, you may chuckle as you envision yourself looking in the mirror and telling yourself how good looking you are. Doggone it, I admit that does seem a bit hokey. However, to create affirmations that are meaningful and effective, I have learned that it is important to keep three things in mind:

1) Focus on what you do want, not what you don’t want. Say “I am healthy and strong” instead of “I am not fat.” Say “I choose nutritious foods and eat moderately, not and nu”I will never pig out on ice cream again.” Make statements that reinforce the positive rather than dwell on the negative.

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2) Create affirmations that reflect your values and beliefs. You are not trying to convince yourself to accept a concept with which you absolutely do not agree. You are simply directing your focus to a positive perspective. Let’s say you think your feet are ugly. Repeating to yourself “my feet are beautiful” is only going to remind you that you actually dislike the way your feet look. Because you are too smart to fool yourself, you will feel a bit ridiculous trying to do so. You will automatically discredit the statement and likely feel even worse about yourself. An article in Psychology Today by Ray B. Williams reports that researchers argue that “when positive self-statements strongly conflict with self-perception… there is not mere resistance but a reinforcing of self-perception.”

So, what if you repeated to yourself words that you actually believed in? You would be able to successfully shift your thinking from a negative place to a positive one. I suggest something like “I am thankful for my feet because they allow me to walk. God gave me feet that are just right for me. I think kindly of my feet because they deserve it for all the hard work they do.” While in the face of criticism and negativity, you may have a hard time comprehending and accepting an affirmation, it is more possible to internalize when it reflects your personal values and beliefs.

3) Practice self affirmations because it is somthing that you choose to do. If you are simply going through the motions of saying “Money is plentiful, and I am rich,” because you feel pressured into it by a well-meaning friend, there is a good chance that you will feel defensive about it and it the words won’t ring true to you (see #2 again.) In fact, this type of approach will likely backfire. Graduate student in social psychology, Arielle Silverman, explains that if one is coerced into saying an affirmation, the benefits are negated. Exercise your freedom of choice and affirm something YOU believe in because YOU want to make it a stronger belief in your life.

Invitation: Be mindful of negative thoughts that creep into your day. Write 3 or more meaningful affirmations that will help you negate those thoughts by focusing on what is positive and true.

I will be back soon to share some of mine.

Continue to Day 21, I am…

For the introduction and list of daily topics for my project, 31 Days of Positive Thinking, go here.

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October 23, 2013 - 12:20 pm

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